Hello everyone! Good evening! As a Psychology graduate I love learning things about the human behavior. Here are some of my thoughts on bullying.

It is true that there are a lot of children who are being bullied everyday. And yes, they need to go to the authorities to report these incidents for it to be resolved. However, people do not talk much about how the bullies are also hurt. The bullies are also anxious and frustrated. These bullies need love also.

Some facts about kids who bully:
1. When they get older, teens who bully are more likely to hurt their spouse or child.
2. People who bully often get involved in unhealthy behaviors, such as smoking and using drugs or alcohol.
3. Bullies often don’t do as well in school and are more likely to drop out.
4. Kids who bully may have power and status, but may not be liked very much.
5. Childhood bullies may have emotional problems as adults.
6. Kids who bully are more likely to think about and attempt suicide.

Children sometimes bully because they are having trouble at home or have a hard time handling their feelings.

If that sounds like you, talk to an adult you trust, like a parent, teacher, or school nurse.

If you have been mean to others, it’s never too late to change. Talk to an adult. You may not realize how you are hurting other people because you are troubled with your emotional hardships. Spend some time alone, assess yourself and pray. You can never go wrong with this. If you cannot talk to other people, be confident that God listens to you and He can heal you. He can make you into a new creation. Trust in Him.

James 4:11 (NKJV): “Do not speak evil of one another, brethren. He who speaks evil of a brother and judges his brother, speaks evil of the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge.”



Speak lies, speak life

It is said in the ninth commandment
Do not bear false witness against your neighbor
Judgment based on falsehood
Destroys one’s life
And discredits a system of justice

People say untrue things
Marriages are broken up
Reputations are damaged
Rumors that are spread
Starting lies bearing falsehood, false witness

Do you swear to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth?
I do
Do you?
Saying I do is taking oath
An oath under pain and penalty of perjury

I know the face of falsehood and her tongue
Honeyed with unction, plausible with guile
She is treasured among men, where I do not belong

They have eaten so much ill gotten things
Forgetting they are human beings
On the mirror not seeing their faces
So with curled lips shout lies after lies
Lungs are colored
Hearts of coal fields
Absorb all
No light, no reflection
As if they are born with deception

Their minds are poor
That truth cannot be distinguished
What is false, what is truth
A type of life which is a waste, a curse

In this world of falsehood
Winds blow
Waves go up
But I learn to laugh
Bear the torch of truth

How about you?
Are you at the side of truth? Or falsehood?
Are you speaking life? Or lies?


On This Day

Today, I saw myself
Oh, how I looked some years back.
On this day
You handed me that note.
Back then
Laughing behind that door.

Going to the last service on a summer Sunday
You meet me and say
Things I never thought possible
Among those birds sang.

Memories, facebook brings
Memories, on this day I peek
Full of life
Full of love.

Awed how words, pictures
Make one smile
Make one cry
Make one laugh
Reminding you
‘Hey, you have been blessed.’

On this day
I ought to do one thing
Something I’d like to remember
A reminder of life, of love.



I force myself to stand as sleep pulls me in my bed.
I try to think about my upcoming quiz and report, no use.
I try to think about how I would love to prepare corned beef for breakfast, no use.
I try to think how I would not want to miss the sunrise, I get up.

The beauty of the sun amazes me.
You cannot force your eyes to look at it, as much as you cannot go near or touch it.
Yet, it is so beautiful, it melts all my worries away.

Spending my morning outside my door, admiring the sun and wind that blows my hair is the most beautiful thing I can give myself during my rest days.

As the day progresses, and as I look forward to sleep at night, it is nice to take a peek at the moon and stars.

These beauties are not as bright as the sun, but it shines in its own calming way.

Seeing the skies twinkling at night reminds me of how God never changes. That if the moon and stars are there, how much more His promises for me?

Like, the sun, moon and stars, we shine differently. We shine in our own unique ways. The sun is no better than the moon or stars like the moon is no better than the stars or the sun. Each one of us are special, valuable and beautiful in our own ways and time. Be patient, God is at work. The sun or the moon or the stars do not shine all day. Like you and me, we need to be prepared to shine. Let God equip you and be ready for your own time.

Are you the sun or moon? Or maybe a star?


LOVE DOES | #Build2018

The year 2017 has been crazy to me (and maybe everyone else). I finished my bachelor’s degree, entered a career and left it, entered a new one, and enrolled in law school. And of course, there are lots of drama alongside my 2017. However, I have realized that as one goes through his journey in life, there is no greater power than love. For love does, acts and demonstrates.

I used to be afraid at failing something, but now I’m afraid of succeeding at things that don’t matter.

I am a perfectionist. Most people are. If you are a top student, you want things to go your way. If you are an artist, you want your masterpiece to be perfect. We all have this trait within us. I do. It matters to me that I succeed in every little thing I do. But with all the things that I tried, did and succeeded at, this girl never got satisfied. As I walked and looked, I have realized that not all dreams and desires are from God. It is important to know who you are, who your Creator is and what your purpose is. As we enter a new year, let us acknowledge all the things we failed and succeeded at. Know what your purpose is and act on it. God will guide you through it for He loves you dearly.

I used to think I could shape the circumstances around me, but now I know Jesus use these circumstances to shape me.

All my life, I thought I can control the situations I am in. I thought I am smart and strong enough to control the environment I am in. But I am wrong. It is only Jesus who can change my situation. It is He who shapes my future and prepares the path I should take.


This new year, I plan to build memories and dreams that are anchored in Jesus.

All the failures and disappointments I have experienced last year were things to be grateful for. In spite of these, LOVE himself, Jesus, showed how He loves me so much that He did not abandon me.

As we start anew, let us focus on Him who is faithful. Because He does.

Love does.

Love acts.

Love demonstrates.




For the past years, I have been seeing posts regarding MSUD. A friend, Ate Ciella, has a son with MSUD. Just recently, I saw her post asking for donations. So, here I am, writing what MSUD is and how we can all help children suffering from it.


MSUD or Maple Syrup Urine Disorder is a rare, inherited metabolic disorder. The disease prevents your body from breaking down certain amino acids. MSUD or Maple Syrup Urine Disorder is a rare, inherited metabolic disorder. The disease prevents your body from breaking down certain amino acids.
Amino acids are what remain after your body digests protein from the food you eat. Special enzymes process amino acids so they can be used to maintain all of your body functions. If some of the necessary enzymes are missing or defective, the amino acids and their byproducts, called keto acids, collect in your body. As the levels of these substances increase, it can result in: (a) neurological damage; (b) coma; and (c) life-threatening conditions. In MSUD, the body lacks an enzyme called BCKDC (branched-chain alpha-keto acid dehydrogenase complex). The BCKDC enzyme processes three important amino acids: leucine, isoleucine, and valine, also called BCAAs (branched-chain amino acids). BCAAs are found in foods rich in protein, such as meat, eggs, and milk.


When untreated, MSUD can cause significant physical and neurological problems. MSUD can be controlled with dietary restrictions. The success of this method can be monitored with blood tests. Early diagnosis and intervention improve the chance of long-term success.


Some initial symptoms characteristic of classic MSUD are: (a) lethargy; (b) poor appetite; (c) weight loss; (d) weak sucking ability; (e) irritability; (f) a distinctive maple sugar odor in earwax, sweat, and urine; (g) irregular sleep patterns; (h) alternating episodes of hypertonia (muscle rigidity) and; (i) hypotonia (muscle limpness).


If your infant is diagnosed with MSUD, prompt medical treatment can avoid serious medical problems and intellectual disability. Initial treatment involves reducing the levels of BCAAs in your baby’s blood.If your infant is diagnosed with MSUD, prompt medical treatment can avoid serious medical problems and intellectual disability. Initial treatment involves reducing the levels of BCAAs in your baby’s blood.
Typically, this involves intravenous (IV) administration of amino acids that don’t contain BCAAs, combined with glucose for extra calories. The treatment will promote the utilization of existing leucine, isoleucine, and valine in the body. At the same time it will reduce the BCAA level and provide necessary protein.
Your physician will create a long-term treatment plan for your child with MSUD in conjunction with a metabolic specialist and a dietitian. The goal of the treatment plan is to provide your child with all the protein and nutrients needed for healthy growth and development. The plan will also avoid allowing too many BCAAS to collect in their blood.


According to my friend, Miss Ciella, a medical formula called BCAD from Mead Johnson has been helping his son fight MSUD everyday. However, this medical formula is not readily available in our country, Philippines. Each can costs PHP 4,000.00. His son, Gab, needs at least 12 cans every month. Without these cans, he could have seizure episodes, be in a coma and die.

Mead Johnson has stopped providing freely for children with MSUD. There are more children with MSUD that are not getting the medical formula. These children might fall into coma and die.

I ask you all to visit Gab’s page and donate whatever you can. Each donation will go to the medical formula needed for Gab and the other children.


If you are reading this, please share to your family and friends! Thanks and God bless you!

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LIEBSTER AWARD 2017 NOMINATION | Bearer of Victory

I have been nominated for the Liebster Award 2017! This award exists only on the internet, and is given to bloggers by other bloggers. “Liebster” has German origins which means sweetest.

I want to thank this sweet girl, Dalene Kirapa, for nominating me! Check her blog out at https://daleneekirapa.wordpress.com/

1. I love books.
2. I study law.
3. I love color purple.
4. I love making time and talking to children.
5. I have fear of heights.
6. I am scared of cats and dogs.
7. I can cry on any emotional tv/movie scene. (even the lame ones)
8. I am a grammar nazi.
9. I can eat mashed potatoes everyday.
10. I have ugly nail beds.
11. I like dancing, and I do it best when I’m alone.


  1. Camila Fernanda (www.misstravelette.com)
  2. Sian Louise O’Dell (sianylou.co.uk)
  3. Ella Jane McKendrick (ellainwanderlust.com)
  4. Jani Maria (thejanimaria.com)
  5. Kristy Henson (laidoffscientist.com)


1. What is the best thing you have learnt since started blogging?
That you do not need to post everyday. People look for content in someone’s blog.

2. What is the inspiration behind your blog?
I actually created a blog in WordPress just to express myself. I had no idea of being a blogger at the beginning. Until people told me to start doing so.

3. Your favorite book and author?
The Witch for Portobello by Paulo Coelho

4. What are 5 of your daily must-haves?
Phone, earphones, wallet, pen and notebook

5. How many countries have you visited?
None. Am I a loser? Haha

6. What is your favorite movie and why?
The Fault in our Stars, definitely. The movie was awesomely produced and directed that I cried from the beginning til the end.

7. Train ride or flight?

8. What cannot you fail to do in the morning?
Pray and write in my journal

9. Your dream in the blogging industry?
That every blogger interact with his/her audience

10. Cold seasons or sunny seasons? Why?
Cold seasons. So I can wear my hoodie and drink hot chocolate.

11. Share with us your plan for Christmas
Rest and eat with my family


1. When did you start blogging?
2. How would you want your blog to succeed for the year 2018?
3. Apart from blogging, what do you do?
4. How do you feel to be nominated in the Liebster Award?
5. What inspires you to blog everyday?
6. What is your blog all about?
7. Anything you want to do and you haven’t tried yet? What is it?
8. Where are you headed to this Christmas?
9. Who motivates you the most?
10. What is number 1 on your 2018 bucket list?
11. What is your craziest memory?

Yay! I am so happy I was nominated and to be able to share this with others, too. So, to my nominees, here are the rules you need to follow to accept the nomination:


If you have been nominated for The Liebster Award AND YOU CHOOSE TO ACCEPT IT, write a blog post about the Liebster Award in which you:

1. Thank the person who nominated you, and post a link to their blog on your blog.

2. Display the award on your blog — by including it in your post and/or displaying it using a “widget” or a “gadget”. (Note that the best way to do this is to save the image to your own computer and then upload it to your blog post.)

3. Answer 11 questions about yourself, which will be provided to you by the person who nominated you.

4. Provide 11 random facts about yourself.

5. Nominate 5 – 11 blogs that you feel deserve the award, who have a less than 1000 followers. (Note that you can always ask the blog owner this since not all blogs display a widget that lets the readers know this information!)

6. Create a new list of questions for the blogger to answer.

7. List these rules in your post (You can copy and paste from here.) Once you have written and published it, you then have to:

8. Inform the people/blogs that you nominated that they have been nominated for the Liebster award and provide a link for them to your post so that they can learn about it (they might not have ever heard of it!)

If you are not nominated but want to answer the questions above, feel free to put your comments! I would love to talk to you.

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5 Things You Might Not Know About Me

Hi! As an introvert, it is sometimes hard to open up to people. It still is. I usually express myself thru my diary or prayer.

I thought of writing 5 things people might not know about me (except my family, of course haha)

Here it goes:

  1. I party. Everyone knows I am an introvert. People think that an introvert always want to be at home and be alone. Well, wrong!! I like parties and other social events. But I do not go to parties to make friends like extroverts do. I only go to parties to be WITH friends and spend quality time with them.
  2. I do not have lots of friends. People think I have so many things going on and I have many friends. I take “friendship” seriously. Unlike extroverts who jump into friendships quickly, it takes me a little more time to be comfortable with a person. I feel very uncomfortable with the idea of interacting with a person, but if I get comfortable, I completely open myself.
  3. I spend time around extroverts. Maybe this is because extroverts help me pull myself out of my comfort zone and awkward situations.
  4. I am an active observant. I quietly observe my surroundings. In the middle of a tensed argument in the office, I quietly observe. in the middle of a party, I quietly observe. In the middle of a group study, I quietly observe. I notice small details and pick up on people’s emotions quickly.
  5. I need to be alone at the end of the day. Nothing sounds better than being alone. It is my time to reflect and pray. Nothing can feel peaceful than this.

It took me time to convince myself to write this blog. I hope I get to encourage introverts out there to be fearless in going out. Though, we need some time alone, it is good to go out and discover different things about yourself and the world. Love and cheers!

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Attending the summit conducted by Integrated Bar of the Philippines last November 23-24, 2017 at the SMX Convention Center, SM Aura, was a privilege and honor. Being in a room full of lawyers, judges and other legal professionals awed me.

I am now sharing what I have learned during the summit. Let’s start!!

1. The approach to drug usage should be re-imagined. Dr. Yee Garcia calls this “harm reduction”. This approach aims to be under a humane and public-health based framework. This approach wants to protect the lives of each Filipino.

2. People who use drugs does not necessarily commit violent crimes. Yes, there is a possibility and probability that drugs can lead to committing crimes. However, drug users usually commit property crimes, not violent crimes.

3. People who use drugs does not have brain disorders. These people might be suffering from mental problems that they need to use drugs for medication or therapy, but it does not mean they have brain disorders.

4. People who use drugs must not always be institutionalized in a rehabilitation center. Being institutionalized needs to be a voluntary act. If a drug user will be institutionalized with no intention of changing oneself and has been admitted in compulsory institutions, it will be useless. Being in a place unwelcoming might worsen the drug user’s situation. Being in compulsory institutions harm people, not only drug users.

5. Putting people in jails is not an effective measure to suppress the use of drugs. Our jails are congested. It has also been proven that out of 100 drug usage cases, only 10 have been put in jails. If there are really violent crimes committed, then these people would think that they are not highly to be put in jail even when they commit such crimes, so why stop?

6. A drug-free society is not an effective goal. It is good to think of a drug-free country because why not? However, this is not what happens in our reality. One administration cannot simply suppress drugs in a span of 6 years, can they?

What this country needs to do is educate people. It is high time to unpack people’s understanding of drugs and re-imagine our approach to societal issues. Address the responsibilities to the society. Let us all be a change to this country.

I am calling out to each and every one reading this. If you know someone who is using drugs, do not condemn or act like they are criminals. They are not. Drugs can be a form of medication, therapy or coping up. Do not say “you are a drug addict”. Drug usage is different from drug addiction. Usage of drugs for one’s health, physical or mental, does not necessarily mean they are addicted to it. Support and pray for one another. You will never know who you are helping out. Cheers!